Awkward exchanges are part of the magic of online dating, but not when they get offensive.
Still, one woman knew exactly what to say when she was confronted by an aggressive man on the Bumble app.
Writer Natalia Antonova tweeted a screen grab of the conversation she’d had with the unnamed suitor.
It began with him admitting he’d searched for her on social media after she rejected him on the site.
He confessed that he’d “swiped right” on Antonova but she “never swiped back.”
“I wondered if you’d respond if I found you on Instagram,” he wrote after she accepted his message request on the platform.
“I’m not offended,” he added. “Just think it’s a little shallow of you.”
Asked to elaborate, the man continued: “You harshly judged my Bumble profile, but the second you saw that I’m funny and I can cook, you let me talk to you.”
A baffled Antonova responded: “Harshly judged? I honestly don’t remember ever coming across you on Bumble. So whatever it is you’ve just assumed, it’s weird and wrong.”
The heated conversation continued with the man asking: “Is this your way of implying that you get so many matches on Bumble that you don’t remember me? Scandalous!’
She replied that she didn’t understand how matching with plenty of people on the app could be considered “scandalous,” adding: “Maybe if I was a nun.”
“Way to make a guy feel good about himself,” he retorted.
Clearly irritated by this point, Antonova wrote back: “It’s not my job to flatter you. Especially after you called me shallow. Piece of advice: Acting insecure and rudely demanding validation is not how you get girls.”
His response?: “You’re just an aging single mom anyway, whatever.”
Their jaw-dropping dialogue ended with a stroke of pure class from Antonova.
She said: “Sure am! That’s why you got upset with me on Bumble, tracked me down on Instagram, came up with a clever response to me, got into my DMs, blew it by being a douchebag, and are now mad about it.
“Cool life.”
Her post, titled ‘Happy anniversary to this great moment in incel history’ racked up more than 115,000 likes and 8,000 shares in two days, as fellow Twitter users hailed her handling of the situation.
Here’s a glimpse at their assessments:
@NataliaAntonova This should be an official exhibit when married people suggest online dating.— Bayne Gibby (@Bayne Gibby) 1621383252
AHAHAHAHAHAHA There really is no coming back from this https://t.co/hnQPWJhcmt https://t.co/G3x8ysXE4A— little miss merleau-ponty (@little miss merleau-ponty) 1621507138
Her responses are just 🤌🏼👏🏼 https://t.co/6PQFWsViRI— esme (@esme) 1621461057
firstly the creepiness is deranged but also i literally cannot bare when men act like they’re doing you a favour by… https://t.co/174uZ0yZnQ— Girlboss Lulu For All (@Girlboss Lulu For All) 1621498958
This actually insane. People are insane. Being single is hard, but my god if this is the alternative I’ll die celib… https://t.co/ExweW7D0gY— Chicken Thicclet 🐔 (@Chicken Thicclet 🐔) 1621495400
@NataliaAntonova @gator_gum "How dare you like my personality" is the weirdest and most ineffective insult ever. L… https://t.co/IueDgeczS3— 🄴🄶🄶🅄 (@🄴🄶🄶🅄) 1621401785
Meanwhile, others shared their own experiences of similar interactions:
@NataliaAntonova He was nice in the Bumble messages. The second he gets my number, I get a pantsless picture. https://t.co/lMuhJhyomG— Megan Jetter (@Megan Jetter) 1621426070
this reminds me of the guy that called me a fat, psychotic whore and asked me a week later if he wanted to come ove… https://t.co/Mz7dbhCneL— joe biden’s frontal lobe 🦋 (@joe biden’s frontal lobe 🦋) 1621478144
@MsShelleyRoman The number of times I have been told I was actually ugly after rejecting a guy is enormous! I’m lik… https://t.co/Rsr9lAbbgV— KMart (@KMart) 1621445907
All we can say is, if you subject someone to insults or inappropriate comments, don’t expect to get away with it – and certainly don’t expect a date out of it…