As the essential piece of internet scripture goes, “each day on Twitter there is one main character. The goal is to never be it.”
Since we can’t have just one week of respite, social media has already erupted into discourse over yesterday’s main character. That person is musician John Roderick, who created a lengthy thread about his nine-year-old daughter who wanted to eat some baked beans.
The problem was that his daughter didn’t know how to use a can opener, and instead of opening the can for her, Roderick used the opportunity as a “teaching moment” and left her to figure it out for herself.
Over 23 tweets, the thread chronicles in detail the six hours it took for her to open the can of beans. At one point, he says that his daughter even “collapsed in a frustrated heap”, all while he refused to tell her how to use the tin opener.
“I’d been tempted many times along the way to guide her hand,” he wrote in one tweet. “I wanted her to experience the magnificence of the can opener SO MUCH I couldn’t stand the suspense. Neither of us likes baked beans that much – the cupboards are bare – so it seemed like a paltry reward for this work.”
In case you missed Bean Dad aka john roderick before he deleted his Twitter account, this is what started it all. https://t.co/KCKRP3099c— Colin T is ManiacalV (@Colin T is ManiacalV) 1609715484
The thread quickly went viral, with Roderick being dubbed “Bean Dad” as he faced mounting criticism. He has also since deleted his account.
Many pointed out that he simply could’ve just demonstrated how to open a can as a teaching moment.
@johnroderick Things you taught your kid: - food must be earned - disordered eating in the forms of food hoarding… https://t.co/8LPQVU83rw— Racheline Maltese (@Racheline Maltese) 1609682468
The first four Bean Dad tweets were the beginning of a possible interesting teachable moment that could have ended… https://t.co/xclC3Ubf8a— Scott Hanselman (@Scott Hanselman) 1609729704
A few voiced their concerns that this only discourages children from asking for help when they sincerely need it.
@ManiacalV You know, I was reading this thinking about my own father, who was very much like this. As a child he wo… https://t.co/OcMHobqvCA— chocopuffin (@chocopuffin) 1609719514
Others came to his defence, arguing that they could see what Roderick was trying to achieve by allowing her to figure out the tin opener on her own.
@ManiacalV I'm coming late to this, but as a parent, I can sympathize with what this guy's trying to do. (Especiall… https://t.co/0HqxxzZ0LQ— Peter Delevett (@Peter Delevett) 1609720971
@ManiacalV Problem solving critical thinking emotional intelligence i hope all the neigh sayers here notice that n… https://t.co/9Op2UKAa4Y— Tom Wilson 🇨🇦 (not hockey player) (@Tom Wilson 🇨🇦 (not hockey player)) 1609728528
Among his defenders was Jeopardy guest host, Ken Jennings, who co-hosts the podcast Omnibus with Roderick.
If this reassures anyone, I personally know John to be (a) a loving and attentive dad who (b) tells heightened-for-… https://t.co/yAJMCWeL5S— Ken Jennings (@Ken Jennings) 1609706310
But above all, the discourse just opened a bigger can of worms… or memes.
You must open a tin of beans with no help from your dad. You have 6 hours. https://t.co/CnoJBynqxy— Rhys James (@Rhys James) 1609759874
Teaching moment for the kids tonight #BeanDad https://t.co/zwwB3BLmhI— Brooklyn Littell (@Brooklyn Littell) 1609727408
9 year old: *spends six hours to ope the can only to discover a jigsaw puzzle of beans* Bean Dad: "Checkmate" https://t.co/mGBBfH5S2r— Jordan Raskopoulos (@Jordan Raskopoulos) 1609734688
If there’s one lesson to learn, it’s that we should be more like Dionne Warwick, who simply does not care in the slightest.
Thanks for sending. I am not reading all of that (Bean Dad). However, it looks like nonsense.— Dionne Warwick (@Dionne Warwick) 1609714016
2021 is already kicking off as weirdly as expected.