Parents seek professional to teach kids about gender and consent because they don't trust the school system

Parents who would like to have ‘the sex talk’ with their children are advertising for the role – because they don’t trust the school to do a proper job.

The advert was posted on Childcare.co.uk, and parents are seeking, in particular, someone who is willing to cover:

• Sex with both genders
• Other gender types, including transgender and non-binary
• Sexual protection – the pill, condoms, abstinence
• Explanation of male and female anatomy
• Pregnancy

The ad continues:

I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask for this kind of help, but here goes. My husband and I are looking to hire someone to give our 8-year-old daughter and 7-year-old son the ‘talk’.

Like most parents, we were hoping we would have more time before this became a problem; ideally, I’d avoid it altogether! But we’re at the point now where they aren’t satisfied with the answer we’re giving them. 

I don’t trust the school to do a proper job teaching either of our children about the complexities of puberty, intimacy and consent which is why we’re looking for someone to handle this for us. 

All sessions will be at our home at a time when one, or both of us can be in the house. We will not be in the room with you but will be home so the children can come and find us if it’s getting too much for them. 

The “ideal candidate” will also need to be able to talk about sex between two people who are in love, STIs, sexual protection and periods – for both their eight-year-old daughter and seven-year-old son.

They will also need to cover the topic of consent, and “possible discussion of rape culture”.

For six sessions, spread across once a week, the parents are willing to pay £2,500.

Richard Conway, founder of Childcare.co.uk said:

Having ‘the talk’ is a rite of passage for any parent and their children, but it can be a difficult conversation to have, even for the closest of families.

These parents are clearly willing to pay handsomely to make sure the sex talk is handled in the best way possible.

It can be difficult for any parent to admit they need help, but I’m sure these parents will be able to find someone in our community of 500,000 childcare professionals to help them. Especially as they’re willing to be flexible and appear very open to guidance. We wish them the best of luck in their search.

Sex education is traditionally offered in UK schools as Sex and Relationship Education – or SRE.

There has been lots of controversy across England about the topic of teaching children about trans and gender identity. Dr Joanna Williams, a leading academic, claims transgender policies in schools are “a waste of time”. However, the Telegraphreported that a new guidance introduced by the National Association of Headteachers advices primary school to use books that feature transgender parents.

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