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Joe Vesey-Byrne
Nov 28, 2017
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Writing on Reddit, an anonymous woman has shared what happened when her alleged rapist 'loved' her #metoo status.
#Metoo is a viral hashtag used by people who have been sexually assaulted. It's a very public way for a person to share an unpleasant chapter in their lives, while simultaneously standing in solidarity with others who have been subjected to assault, abuse, rape, and violence.
The online movement, which was brought to prominence by actor Alyssa Milano, began during the initial accusations against now disgraced producer Harvey Weinstein.
One user on Reddit however, has described how taking part in the the movement led to more anger and hurt.
Anonymous user Humandalekrace revealed that when she shared her story in a Facebook status with #MeToo, her alleged rapist 'loved' the status.
She called him out on it.
The writer added that she had kept her alleged attacker in her social media circle because;
It might not make logical sense, but part of me felt the need to know what he was up to, like I had a responsibility to make sure he wasn't hurting anyone else.
The user later notes that in the exchange with the individual, the man challenged her privately about the inferred accusation.
Other users on the thread shared similar experiences.
Some users on the thread also recounted how their alleged attackers did not believe they had committed a crime.
In 2015 a study published in the journal Violence and Gender, which also cited earlier research from the 1980s, found multiple cases of men who did not think that rape was rape.
In their findings, 31.7 per cent of men also admitted that in a consequence-free situation they would force a woman to have sex.
Worryingly, 13.6 per cent of those surveyed for the research said they would rape a woman. The 20 point distinction made between these two examples was a horrible insight into the false distinction between rape and forcing someone to have sex.
Other users on the thread suggested that attackers often force interaction after an attack, or respond to their victim's social media posts about sex assault with affirmation, as a form of 'power play'.
The original poster also added that in the case of their alleged attacker, 'he knows'.
The individual at the centre of the original post is now blocked.
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