Best man proposed to his partner mid-ceremony and people are furious

In life, there are some unwritten social codes that we all just know not to break. You know, like putting on clothes when we leave the house; saying thank you when someone holds the door open for you; and oh, NOT PROPOSING AT A WEDDING!

Surely, surely, this is just a sort of an obvious given.

However, according to a letter to Slate's 'Dear Prudence', this appears not to be the case.

One unfortunate bride wrote to the agony aunt to outline how her husband's best man had proposed to his partner literally as she was walking down the aisle.

The couple had put off their wedding for years, saving up more than £60,000 to make it as perfect and special as it could possibly be. Understandably, they were both completely livid, and no longer speak to the best man.

Writing to the agony aunt, the disgruntled bride wrote:

Q. My husband’s best friend proposed to his girlfriend during our wedding ceremony:

She continued:

My husband and I started dating, got pregnant, had a child, moved in together, bought a house, and got a dog in that order.

Our friends and family have asked us for years why we weren’t married yet.

We always pushed it off to build better lives.

We’ve done really well for ourselves and finally reached a point where we could afford a huge blowout wedding to celebrate our lives with everyone we know and love.

My husband’s best friend, “John,” was the best man/officiant.

The setting was beautiful, everyone seemed happy, our families were overjoyed.

My mom may have used the phrase hallelujah a few dozen times.

The entire atmosphere felt moving.

So moving in fact that John stopped mid-ceremony to propose to his longtime girlfriend, “Jane,” and reveal her pregnancy.

I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests, and people seated nearby congratulating her.

This is literally the stuff of nightmares.

Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony, and you can’t hear anything over the chatter.

When John gave his toast, he apologised for being caught up in the moment, and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us.

She continued:

During the reception John and Jane became the primary focus of our guests.

John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor.

I’ve never been an attention hog, and I wouldn’t even have minded if he’d proposed after the ceremony, but weeks later I am still seething.

I am so shocked and angry that I keep asking myself if this is real life.

My husband hasn’t spoken to John since the wedding, and our mutual friends think what he did was rude but that my husband should just get over it.

My husband has joked that he’ll resume his friendship when John and Jane give him a $40,000 check for “their half of the wedding.”

Do you think John’s behavior warrants the end of a long-term friendship, or are we angry over nothing?”

Ermmm, let us have a think about that for a second....

WE'VE NEVER BEEN MORE SURE OF ANYTHING IN OUR WHOLE ENTIRE LIVES!

After Twitter user @ash_uhhleyyyy posted the letter to Twitter, many of her followers agreed.

Taking to the social media platform, she wrote:

Look at this nightmare y'all. I absolutely wouldn't speak to John or Jane ever again.

Just to warn you, some of the language in these responses isn't exactly 'safe for work'...

Some didn't mince their words.

Jon better watch out tbh.

Jon AND Jane better watch out...

Some blamed the bride for the way she handled it.

And people were unimpressed with the other guests, too.

But seriously, WHO DOES THIS!?

And, what was Prudence's advice?

A FIGHT, OF COURSE!

A: I think it merits a fight!

She continued:

In between “getting over it” and “never speaking to John again” is the happy medium of “having a difficult conversation with a longtime friend who did something selfish and self-absorbed on your wedding day.”

He’s your husband’s best friend, so your husband should tell John just how upset his behavior during your wedding made him.

Maybe John will apologize and the two of them can have a meaningful reconciliation and build a better friendship as a result.

Maybe John will double down and dismiss your husband’s feelings, and things will naturally fall apart between them.

Whatever the outcome, there is definitely at least one step in between “seething silently” and “cutting John loose forever,” especially since the two of them have been best friends for a long time.

HT Someecards

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