How to become successful in anything you do regardless of ‘IQ’, according to a psychotherapist

Many of us are familiar with the phrase, “the sky’s the limit,” and that we can achieve anything that we want in this lifetime as long as we put our minds to it.

At times, we may not know how to get the level of success that we want for ourselves or think it can only be achieved through modes of mindfulness, meditation or luck in career goals.

And when we don’t achieve the pinnacle of success in our eyes, we may feel like a failure.

But do you know what the one major factor is that can help us turn our failures into successes? It’s self-discipline.

In a recent article from Psychology Today, Donald Altman, a psychotherapist, former monk, and author of the new book Simply Mindful: A 7-week course and Personal Handbook for Mindful Living, broke down the art of self-discipline.

Research suggests that self-discipline, which Altman calls “Big D,” is a stronger predictor of success over IQ because of the act of “natural efforts” and “purposeful awareness.”

Altman further notes that any aspect of our lives that we “desire to be successful—be it musical, athletic, leadership, and effectiveness at work — requires discipline and a commitment to developing greater skill over time.”

Once we master it, it becomes second nature or a habit, helping us become more at ease and joyful in all that we do to keep us moving forward.

Whenever we feel a bit stuck or don’t feel that we can grow, Altman concludes with three-step discipline practice to continue finding successes in our lives, regardless of our circumstances.

Here are the steps:

1. Take a step back and realize that the fear of failure means “more experience.”

Sometimes the feeling of failure holds us back, but it’s good to reframe those adverse thoughts, taking a second to reflect, gain new skills and try again!

2. Learn from others who got to the level of success you want to reach.

There’s nothing wrong with studying from others who got to a place that you wish to be. Write down how they achieved their goals, what methods worked for them, how consistent they were, and what obstacles they may have faced.

It will help us fine-tune our approach.

3. Be accountable on the journey.

Try and practice as much as you can every day, even if you feel like you don’t have the energy to do so. Taking the time to do a little research counts for something.

It’s also helpful for us to tell someone that we trust about our journey so they can also help us be accountable and encourage us to embark on the life path we want for ourselves.

For more information about success, check out the article here.